Bearing witness to a homicide, trying to live with its aftermath, or struggling to support a friend or loved one who is on this unimaginable pilgrammage is an immense task. The death and it's fallout is always frightening, exhausting and infuriating. Specific, unwanted images, statements, sounds, smells or nightmares bring the survivor back. The funeral, news coverage, legal knots, anniversaries and sleepless nights resurrect the grief. Sharing this tragedy with others will never bring the deceased back, but it lets others know that this murder victim is never forgotten. A problem shared is a problem divided. So, again I ask, what is your story?Read more
Jan Canty, Ph.D....
Welcome. Since you have found your way here, you have no doubt personally experienced the aftermath of homicide,
or care about someone who has. We are part of a fellowship we never expected to join and we are larger than most people
imagine. We grow by 17,000 murders a year. Some of you have lost fathers, mothers, sons, daughters, sisters or brothers.
In my case, it was my spouse.
We are amazingly diverse and, oddly quite similar.
Some of us are young, others old, some dwell in rural areas and others in the city. But we all know the weariness,
anger, fear, isolation and confusion that homicide brings to our doorstep. We each have a specific memory we cannot
shake, a particular trigger for our reactions and some change of behavior which, like a scar, will not go away.
The intent of this blog is to offer you a safe platform to share your unique story, collect resources we stumble upon and a place to comment on the memoires that others post. This is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health care or spiritual guidance. The take away message here is you are accompanied. Your loved one matters. Here is your place to mingle, to express yourself and learn.. There is strength in numbers.
Thank you for your contributions.